When you choose to elope, you’re choosing intention over expectation. It’s about creating space for connection, adventure, and authenticity. But that doesn’t mean leaving your people behind. You can still include family and friends in your elopement. Whether they’re with you in person or sending love from afar, here are a few ways to include them in your day—without sacrificing the intimacy and adventure that make an elopement so special.
If You’re Eloping With Family and Friends Present
1. Plan a Small Gathering or Ceremony
Invite a few of your nearest and dearest to join you for the ceremony or part of the day. This could be a simple circle of your people at your ceremony spot, a post-ceremony picnic, or even a cozy dinner at a local spot afterward.
2. Include Family in Your Elopement Ceremony
Ask someone close to you to officiate, read a poem, share a blessing, or play music. These small touches can bring everyone closer and make the ceremony feel personal and inclusive. Make sure you’ve reviewed your state’s guidelines for making your marriage legal. Here’s everything you need to know about tying the knot in Vermont.
3. Get Ready Together
Start your elopement day with family by your side. Share a getting-ready space with your family or closest friends before they see you off for your adventure. You’ll have a chance to soak up the excitement, share a few happy tears, and set the tone for the day together.
4. Include Family and Friends in Your Elopement Activities
Consider an easy group hike, canoe trip, or scenic drive before or after the ceremony. It’s a great way to share the experience without sacrificing the intimate vibe.
If You’re Eloping Just the Two of You
1. Read Letters or Watch Messages from Loved Ones
Ask friends or family to write you letters or record short videos. You can read or watch them together on your elopement day, surrounded by nature and love. It’s such a powerful way to feel their presence even when they’re not physically there.
2. Bring Mementos With You
Wear heirloom jewelry, tuck a photo into your vow book, or carry something meaningful from a family member—like a handkerchief, patch, or charm. These little symbols are powerful reminders that you’re supported.
3. Host a Celebration Later
Plan a casual post-elopement party or dinner when you’re back home (or even a few weeks later!). You can share your photos and tell the story of the day. Your loved ones will feel honored to be part of it in some way.
4. Livestream Your Ceremony
If you have cell service or Wi-Fi, consider livestreaming your ceremony. It’s not for everyone, but if it feels right, it’s a simple way to share the moment in real time.
Your Elopement, Your Way
The beauty of eloping is having the freedom to create a day that’s deeply meaningful to you. Including friends and family—whether in person or from afar—can add so much to your experience without taking away from the intimacy. It’s about celebrating your love story, your way.
If you need help brainstorming ideas that feel aligned with your vision, I’m here for it. I’ve seen couples do this in the most creative, heartfelt ways—and I’d love to help you dream something up, too.
