Acadia National Park elopement. Couple reading letters from friends and family

How to Include Friends and Family on Your Elopement Day

You want the elopement experience, but you're worried what friends and family will say. I get it. Choosing to elope can be a big deal - not only for the two of you but also for those who have been looking forward to celebrating with you. But there are so many ways that you can include friends and family in your elopement day!

Here are a few of my favorite ways to include friends or family in your elopement day:

Read Handwritten Letters from Friends and Family

Ask your friends and family to write letters for the two of you to open on your elopement day. You can keep it open ended or select a theme for them to write about - wedding advice, their first memory of the two of you together, where they imagine you two to be in ten years!

Voice or Video Recordings from Loved Ones

Similarly, you could turn it into audio or video form and have everyone submit a sound bite or short video. Put someone in charge of compiling them all and then listen to or watch it while you have your morning coffee, at the top of a mountain, or right after your ceremony. You'll be showered with love, laughter, and perhaps a few happy tears. It will be a super memorable moment!

Bring Friends and Family Along With You

You know, your elopement day doesn’t HAVE to be just the two of you! If you want to have some friends and family with you - then go ahead and do it! I typically recommend keeping it small - no more than 20 people. The more people you include, the bigger the challenge of fitting into a remote and scenic spot that aligns with everyone’s abilities and comforts. Make sure you take into consideration that walking or hiking to your ceremony location is highly likely and that seating and restrooms may not be available to your guests. Think about the terrain (and climate!) you may be in and make sure that all of your guests will be safe, happy and healthy if they join you.

Plan a Reception or Party with Friends and Family After Your Elopement

Finish off your elopement day with a reception dinner and party with all of your loved ones. Planning a destination elopement? Your reception can take place weeks or even months later - whatever makes the most sense with your own adventure and travel plans! But having a gathering in the form of a reception gives you a chance to share all of your favorite memories from your elopement with your loved ones and offers them a chance to share all of their favorite memories in watching you get to where you are now. It’s a pretty special thing!


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